OUR MISSION:

To be a source of help, hope, safety, and inspiration to survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

We embrace and focus on the story of each individual with deep concern and care in order to understand, facilitate, advocate, and support.

WHAT DOES AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE?

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WHAT DOES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE?

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  • Distrust & Disrespect
  • Doesn't Communicate Feelings
  • Explosive Temper
  • Physically Harms You
  • Keeps you from your job
  • Threatens You
  • Possessive
  • Mood Swings
  • Humiliates you
  • Checks your cell phone & social media accounts without permission

How to tell if you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship?

Since there are so many different ways that a relationship could be unhealthy or abusive, sometimes it's difficult to tell. However, if you answer yes to any of the following questions then your relationship is unhealthy.

  • Are you afraid of the person you're going out with?
  • Do they call you names; make you feel stupid, or tell you can't do anything right?
  • Do they say that no one else would ever go out with you?
  • Do you feel cut off from your friends and family?
  • Does this persons shove, grab, hit, pinch, hold you down or kick you?
  • Does this person make frequent promises that change?
  • Do they pretend they never hurt you?
  • Do they tell you you're making a "big deal" out of it?
  • Do you feel pushed or forced into being sexual?

KNOW WHERE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FALLS:

Relationships exist on a spectrum and can be healthy, unhealthy, or abusive, and even in between. Sometimes it's hard to tell where your relationship falls. It's important to keep in mind that just because a relationship isn't physically abusive, doesn't mean it's healthy.

Everybody deserves to be in a healthy relationship that's free from violence. A good partner isn't overly jealous and doesn't make you feel guilty about spending time with others.

What to do if you're in an unhealthy relationship?

Remember, there are many types of abuse and you make think they're normal, but they are not.

 

Even teenagers experience emotionally, physically, sexually, and verbally abusive relationships. If you feel like you're dependent on your partner, leaving may seem impossible, but SASA can help.

 

It's normal to feel nervous about leaving your partner, but staying in the abusive relationship isn't your only option.

KEYS TO CONSENT

Consent is permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. It's essential to healthy relationships.

 

  • CONSENT IS CLEAR. Don't rely on body language or non-verbal cues, and don't mistake silence for consent. ALWAYS ASK.

 

  • Consent is specific. If someone says yes to kissing, that doesn't mean they are interested in anything beyond that. If it doesn't mean they are down with it in the future. Consent is specific to a particular action at a particular time.

 

  • Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Someone may say yes and then change their mind and that's okay.

 

  • Drugs, alcohol, and clear consent do not mix. Drugs and alcohol impact decision making and clear consent impossible. An intoxicated person cannot legally give consent in many states.

 

  • Consent can be fun. Not only will it make the experience more enjoyable, but will strenghthen your relationship.

 

BE AN ACTIVE BYSTANDER

How to Be an Active Bystander

 

Become an Intervener

Stop potential incidents before they happen, educate yourself and others, talk to and support your friends so they will also intervene.

 

The best way bystanders can assist in creating an empowering climate free of interpersonal violence is to diffuse the problem behaviors before they escalate.

 

Here are some ways you can stand up and speak out as an active bystander.

  • Recognize that if someone doesn’t or can’t consent to sex, it’s sexual assault
  • Confront friends who make excuses for other people's abusive behavior
  • Speak up against racist, sexist, and homophobic jokes, music, remarks, etc
  • Confront abusive behavior by not remaining silent
  • Realize we have a role to play in stopping sexual assault
  • Get someone home safely if he or she needs help
  • Hold our friends accountable
  • Tell our friends if what they are doing is wrong
  • Never blame the victim
  • Keep an eye on someone in a vulnerable situation
  • Not look the other way
  • Do something to get in the way of a sexual assault
  • Step up and say something
  • Let our friend’s know what is and is not acceptable
  • Help a victim report a sexual assault if he or she wants to
  • Call non-consensual sex what it is—Rape
  • Act when we think someone is in trouble
  • Make violence unacceptable

 

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Our Mission

To be a source of help, hope, safety, and inspiration to survivors of domestic and sexual violence. We embrace and focus on the story of each individual with deep concern and care in order to understand, facilitate, advocate, and support.

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